A Boy Was Ridiculed for Wearing Pink Lipstick. His Family Did the Best Thing Ever
"Gender real nahi hota"
This Young boy was called a "chakka" for putting on lipstick. (source: Twitter)
One day, a boy in Allahabad scurried behind the curtain, then slid under the bed to hide from his “embarrassed mother” and sternly shielded his face from the gaze of a camera that her elder sister held at him.
No, he hadn't failed his Math test or eaten too many scoops of ice cream. His mistake was that he dared to apply a shade of pink lipstick.
On a Twitter thread this morning, 22-year-old Diksha Bijlani, Legislative Assistant to Member of Parliament, shared the story of her 'Little Cuz'. Bijlani writes that her cousin is the most “effeminate” member in her family and he absolutely loves nail paints, lipsticks and learning home science.
When Bijlani's young cousin wore lipstick, he was jeered and mocked at. His family members also called him a “chakka”.
Bijlani's 'Little Cuz' is the constant butt of jokes for his family members and neighbors-- the victims of a frighteningly stereotypical alpha-centric gender identities who find it hard to accept a boy wearing lipstick simply because he loves to.
However, to our absolute joy, Bijlani helped 'Little Cuz' come to terms with his identity beyond gender binaries. She had a plan. She got together with all her cousins, including her elder brother and they all put lipstick on.
And might we add, they all seem to be rocking it.
Bijlani's initiative to create conversations that target the plague of toxic- masculinity is a heart warming lesson on the importance of letting young kids know that they are accepted as they are, for what they are so that we are able to provide everyone a safe place in the gender spectrum. Oh, and 'Little Cuz' managed to embrace his identity in all glory.
Just like us, Twitter is celebrating Little Cuz in all its glory:
No, he hadn't failed his Math test or eaten too many scoops of ice cream. His mistake was that he dared to apply a shade of pink lipstick.
On a Twitter thread this morning, 22-year-old Diksha Bijlani, Legislative Assistant to Member of Parliament, shared the story of her 'Little Cuz'. Bijlani writes that her cousin is the most “effeminate” member in her family and he absolutely loves nail paints, lipsticks and learning home science.
Bijlani's 'Little Cuz' is the constant butt of jokes for his family members and neighbors-- the victims of a frighteningly stereotypical alpha-centric gender identities who find it hard to accept a boy wearing lipstick simply because he loves to.
However, to our absolute joy, Bijlani helped 'Little Cuz' come to terms with his identity beyond gender binaries. She had a plan. She got together with all her cousins, including her elder brother and they all put lipstick on.
So he hid behind the curtain & under the bed, shielding his lipcoloured face from the camera & from his mom. Somehow it is always the moms that feel most “embarassed” with their masculine, hardy sons trying makeup. Or anything feminine. (2/n)
In such a house it takes constant work as elder cousins to undo the conditioned gender binary,normalise gender neutral acts which are deemed feminine. So we all wore lip color to make him comfortable & accepted. He felt a specially empowered when he saw my brother wearing it(3/n) pic.twitter.com/aixXrfMpbw
And might we add, they all seem to be rocking it.
In such a house it takes constant work as elder cousins to undo the conditioned gender binary,normalise gender neutral acts which are deemed feminine. So we all wore lip color to make him comfortable & accepted. He felt a specially empowered when he saw my brother wearing it(3/n) pic.twitter.com/aixXrfMpbw
My brother gave up any toxic masculinity & complied to influence Little Cuz. Little Cuz came out & smiled comfortable in his skin.
So important to realise that we owe the responsibility of giving every younger kid a safe space to embrace his place within the gender spectrum(4/n) pic.twitter.com/d9ffsJbsTa
Bijlani's initiative to create conversations that target the plague of toxic- masculinity is a heart warming lesson on the importance of letting young kids know that they are accepted as they are, for what they are so that we are able to provide everyone a safe place in the gender spectrum. Oh, and 'Little Cuz' managed to embrace his identity in all glory.
Update: Today, Little Cuz picked up his sister’s pink bicycle. Uncle ridiculed him for riding on a pink bicycle like a girl (bec that’s how petty my fam is). He retorts & says “Gender real nai hota. Kal mene aur bhaiya dono ne red lipstick lagaya tha didi ke saath. Aap puchlo”
Just like us, Twitter is celebrating Little Cuz in all its glory:
My cousin, 9, is the most “effeminate” in the house. Let’s call him Little Cuz. Loves to paint nails, wear lipcolour, learn home science! But in this stereotypical alpha male-centric household he’s often the pivot of jokes. Today he applied lipcolour & got called a “chakka” (1/n) pic.twitter.com/mZ2FplPNyP
My cousin, 9, is the most “effeminate” in the house. Let’s call him Little Cuz. Loves to paint nails, wear lipcolour, learn home science! But in this stereotypical alpha male-centric household he’s often the pivot of jokes. Today he applied lipcolour & got called a “chakka” (1/n) pic.twitter.com/mZ2FplPNyP
Even if you launch a satellite with 1/10th of expected cost, ppl will criticise you. he is too young to understand this. Loved the kind gesture showed by you to make him feel comfortable.
My cousin, 9, is the most “effeminate” in the house. Let’s call him Little Cuz. Loves to paint nails, wear lipcolour, learn home science! But in this stereotypical alpha male-centric household he’s often the pivot of jokes. Today he applied lipcolour & got called a “chakka” (1/n) pic.twitter.com/mZ2FplPNyP
I think we’ve all done something like this in our childhood knowingly or unknowingly, and it was the correct way to approach it. Thanks India’s #generationZ you make me proud a lot of times.
My cousin, 9, is the most “effeminate” in the house. Let’s call him Little Cuz. Loves to paint nails, wear lipcolour, learn home science! But in this stereotypical alpha male-centric household he’s often the pivot of jokes. Today he applied lipcolour & got called a “chakka” (1/n) pic.twitter.com/mZ2FplPNyP
That made me smile :) Get the kid a chocolate and tell them there are people who will always be by their side
My cousin, 9, is the most “effeminate” in the house. Let’s call him Little Cuz. Loves to paint nails, wear lipcolour, learn home science! But in this stereotypical alpha male-centric household he’s often the pivot of jokes. Today he applied lipcolour & got called a “chakka” (1/n) pic.twitter.com/mZ2FplPNyP
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